{"id":55,"date":"2013-05-07T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2013-05-07T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/yule-tide.generalsemiotics.net\/index.php\/2013\/05\/07\/post-48-one-night-in-april-of-2009-pt-3-meeting-the-boss\/"},"modified":"2013-05-07T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"2013-05-07T00:00:00","slug":"post-48-one-night-in-april-of-2009-pt-3-meeting-the-boss","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/yule-tide.blog\/index.php\/2013\/05\/07\/post-48-one-night-in-april-of-2009-pt-3-meeting-the-boss\/","title":{"rendered":"Post-48: One Night in April of 2009 (Pt. 3): Meeting the Boss"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"paragraph\" style=\"text-align:center;\">\n<strong style=\"\">NOTE:<\/strong><em style=\"\"> These are my memories of the night I  arrived  in Korea in 2009. <br \/>The memories are vivid, even as I sit here in the  spring of  2013, four years later.<\/em>\n<\/div>\n<div>\n<div style=\"height: 20px; overflow: hidden; width: 100%;\"><\/div>\n<hr class=\"styled-hr\" style=\"width:100%;\">\n<div style=\"height: 20px; overflow: hidden; width: 100%;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"paragraph\" style=\"text-align:center;\">\n<font size=\"4\">This is a follow-up to:<\/font><br \/><span><\/span><font size=\"4\"><a style=\"\" title=\"\" href=\"http:\/\/yuletide5142.weebly.com\/1\/post\/2013\/05\/post-46-one-night-in-april-of-2009-pt-1-at-the-airport.html\"><strong style=\"\">Part I: &#8220;<font size=\"4\">A <\/font>Pig Virus Delays <font size=\"4\">My Arrival<\/font>&#8220;<\/strong><\/a><\/font><br \/><span>a<\/span>nd<br \/><strong><a title=\"\" href=\"http:\/\/yuletide5142.weebly.com\/1\/post\/2013\/05\/post-47-one-night-in-april-of-2009-pt-2-the-wild-neon-yonder.html\"><font size=\"4\"><span>Part II: &#8220;Into the Wild Neon Yonder&#8221;<\/span><\/font><\/a><\/strong><br \/><span style=\"\"><\/span>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"paragraph\" style=\"text-align:left;\"><font size=\"2\">[Simple synopsis of <a style=\"\" title=\"\" href=\"http:\/\/yuletide5142.weebly.com\/1\/post\/2013\/05\/post-46-one-night-in-april-of-2009-pt-1-at-the-airport.html\">Part I<\/a>: Late arrival due to Swine-Flu inspection; I find the woman waiting to pick me up]<br \/>[Simple synopsis of <a style=\"\" title=\"\" href=\"http:\/\/yuletide5142.weebly.com\/1\/post\/2013\/05\/post-47-one-night-in-april-of-2009-pt-2-the-wild-neon-yonder.html\">Part II<\/a>: From the airport to my new workplace]<\/font><\/div>\n<div>\n<div style=\"height: 20px; overflow: hidden; width: 100%;\"><\/div>\n<hr class=\"styled-hr\" style=\"width:100%;\">\n<div style=\"height: 20px; overflow: hidden; width: 100%;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"paragraph\" style=\"text-align:left;\">\n<font size=\"4\"><strong><font size=\"6\"><u>Part III<\/u>: <\/font><\/strong><font size=\"6\"><strong>Meeting the Boss<\/strong><\/font><\/font><\/p>\n<p>  The elevator door opens. The inside of the institute is bright and clean, impressive. Two  hallways lead off towards classrooms on either side of the front-desk. The  first person I see is seated <em>behind<\/em> that front-desk, a receptionist-secretary (or &#8220;Desk  Teacher&#8221;,  as they were called). In the seven or eight months she and I worked  together, she was to say a total of two words to me: &#8220;Hi&#8221; was one. The  other was &#8220;Bye&#8221;.\u00a0 She was shy, and she didn&#8217;t know much English, but she was pleasant. From what I saw, she had that kind of &#8220;hardline&#8221; shyness that if observed in a child in the USA would alarm people but in Korea is generally not considered problematic.<\/p>\n<p>It is around 11 PM. The timing worked out well: The language-institute&#8217;s schedule was for teachers to be there from 3 PM to 11 PM. Classes were held between 4:30 PM and 10:30 PM. This meant my arrival was after the students had left, but while the teachers were still there. I was a bit self-conscious about showing up with suitcases in hand in front of soon-to-be coworkers, but at least it wasn&#8217;t in front of dozens of soon-to-be <em>students<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p><span><\/span>Soon, a Korean woman of about 40, with short hair and an amiably-forceful personality, materializes and greets us. This is Mrs. Y, the boss. She is smiling broadly. I did not, at that moment, know who she <span>was<\/span>:  I didn&#8217;t know much of anything about <em>any<\/em>thing  then. In March of 2009, while in the USA, I&#8217;d talked to  her husband on the phone. He ran, and as of this writing still <em>runs<\/em>,  the other campus of this language-institute. This was no  corporate-owned franchise, but a mom-and-pop operation (quite literally:  They have a daughter, whom I taught). Anyway, the husband  had interviewed me. He was a smooth interviewer. The contract I  subsequently signed bore his name, I think. My visa didn&#8217;t say his name,  but rather Mrs. Y&#8217;s, although I couldn&#8217;t read the Korean yet, so I was  ignorant of that fact.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, Mrs. Y would be my boss  for the next twelve months, and a very engaged boss she was. Some bosses are resented because &#8212; it seems to their  subordinates &#8212; they coast off the work of others, and don&#8217;t seem to  really <em>do<\/em> anything. This is certainly my feeling about the  top-tier of managers at my current job (as of spring 2013), but was not  the case at all with Mrs. Y: She definitely worked more than the rest of  us. Besides being (as co-owner) in charge of the money and the  administrative and marketing sides of running the business, she was a  full-time teacher. It was like she did two full-time jobs. The problem was, she expected everyone to be as committed as she was.<\/p>\n<p>She took on a full-load of classes because she loved teaching,\u00a0 I think, more than it being about only saving money.<\/p><\/div>\n<div>\n<div style=\"height: 20px; overflow: hidden; width: 100%;\"><\/div>\n<hr class=\"styled-hr\" style=\"width:100%;\">\n<div style=\"height: 20px; overflow: hidden; width: 100%;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>  <span class=\"imgPusher\" style=\"float:right;height:0px\"><\/span><span style=\"z-index:10;position:relative;float:right;;clear:right;margin-top:0px;*margin-top:0px\"><a><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/yule-tide.blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/9553264.jpg?324\" style=\"margin-top: 5px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-left: 10px; margin-right: 0px; border-width:1px;\" alt=\"Picture\" class=\"galleryImageBorderBlack\"><\/a><span style=\"display: block; font-size: 90%; margin-top: -10px; margin-bottom: 10px; text-align: center;\">A 1978 photograph of Gangnam&#8217;s <br \/>Apgujeong neighborhood \/ (From <a href=\"http:\/\/www.koreatimes.co.kr\/www\/news\/art\/2011\/01\/135_79951.html\">here<\/a>)<\/span><\/span> <\/p>\n<div class=\"paragraph\" style=\"text-align:left;display:block;\">\n<font size=\"4\"><strong>Personal Background of the Boss, Mrs. Y<\/strong><\/font><br \/>I think this is worth telling. As I was able to piece it together, this is Mrs. Y&#8217;s history:<br \/><span><\/span><br \/>Mrs. Y, was born somewhere in the southern part of the country in the spring of 1970. I believe it was Gyeongsang Province. The average Korean woman in those days bore <a title=\"\" href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Demographics_of_South_Korea#Registered_births_and_deaths.5B9.5D\">4.5 babies<\/a>,  and the country was poor, arguably worse-off than North Korea: I&#8217;ve read that South-Korea was poorer than North Korea from 1945 until as late as 1970. In 1970, a  former army-general was president(-for-life) of South Korea after having taken power in a coup nine years earlier, and political dissidents regularly &#8220;disappeared&#8221;. The  sites of the new developments in and around Seoul &#8212; such as Ilsan  (where this woman now stood before me) and now-famous Gangnam  &#8212; existed as farmland, as in the photo above.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s no exaggeration to say that the South-Korea into which Mrs. Y was born resembled the North Korea of today more than it resembled the South Korea of today! That fact explains a lot about her personality, and the personality of her generation, I think.<br \/><span><\/span><br \/><span><\/span>By the time Mrs. Y entered high school,  South Korea&#8217;s fertility rate had dropped to 1.5 babies\/woman, and military rule was  relaxing, though a general was still president. <\/p>\n<p>Mrs. Y told me that, as a girl in the early 1980s, she developed a strong interest in American pop music. She said <span>music <\/span>was   what drove her to major in English  at  university. Although she  did  also express to me ambivalent feelings about the USA  itself (a  typical  South-Korean attitude), I don&#8217;t doubt that she felt attracted to   American pop music, about which she seemed very well-informed.<\/div>\n<hr style=\"width:100%;clear:both;visibility:hidden;\">\n<span class=\"imgPusher\" style=\"float:left;height:0px\"><\/span><span style=\"z-index:10;position:relative;float:left;;clear:left;margin-top:0px;*margin-top:0px\"><a><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/yule-tide.blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1368209347.jpg\" style=\"margin-top: 5px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 10px; border-width:0;\" alt=\"Picture\" class=\"galleryImageBorderBlack\"><\/a><span style=\"display: block; font-size: 90%; margin-top: -10px; margin-bottom: 10px; text-align: center;\">A publicity poster for a song by two major <br \/> K-Pop groups, &#8220;Big Bang&#8221; and &#8220;2NE1&#8221;, 2009. \/ <br \/> My boss told me she was drawn to American <br \/> pop music in the 1980s, before K-Pop existed.<\/span><\/span> <\/p>\n<div class=\"paragraph\" style=\"text-align:left;display:block;\">\n<span><\/span>Attraction to American pop music seems somehow quaint. It&#8217;s a legacy of a bygone  era of U.S. cultural power, it seems to me. I mean, it&#8217;s not too hard to imagine a Korean born in  1970 doing it, as my boss did. It&#8217;s much  harder to imagine it in a Korean born in 1991 or in 2001 (or 2011, or 2022), because of the enormous and well-developed world of K-Pop, which just did not exist yet in the  1970s and 1980s, and into which younger Koreans tend sink all their musical teeth.<\/p>\n<p><span><\/span>Most early-2010s Korean middle school  students, with whom I have interacted at my jobs, have seemed under the impression  that K-Pop singers are among the most famous in the world. I have never  had the heart to tell them that K-Pop has been (generally)<em> totally unknown<\/em>  in the USA, until the novelty song by Psy last year. <\/p>\n<p><span><\/span>Mrs. Y majored in English in university in the early 1990s. <br \/><span><\/span><br \/><span><\/span>Perhaps if K-Pop had existed in the 1980s, she never would never have studied English at all. It&#8217;s possible.<\/p>\n<p>By the mid-1990s, it seems she was teaching in English language-institutes. She met her husband (a former <a title=\"\" href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/KATUSA\">KATUSA<\/a>  with an MBA from a U.S. university) around 1996. They got married and  their daughter was born in 1997, I think. I taught the daughter when she was in 6th and 7th grades. By year 2000 (at latest), the family was in  Ilsan. They both earned good money in the then-booming  language-institute business, and in the mid-2000s they opened their own place.  In mid-2008, Mrs.<span><\/span> Y opened her own campus in southern Ilsan. It was this  place that would be my home for the next year, six days a week.<\/p>\n<p>Her English was excellent, I would say totally fluent, except for an occasional &#8220;how could she have known&#8221; mistake, like saying &#8220;<u><em>M<\/em><\/u>VP&#8221; instead of &#8220;MV<u><em>P<\/em><\/u>&#8221; (emphasis on &#8216;P&#8217;). I am very impressed that someone could develop such a mastery without ever having gone abroad.<\/div>\n<hr style=\"width:100%;clear:both;visibility:hidden;\">\n<div>\n<div style=\"height: 20px; overflow: hidden; width: 100%;\"><\/div>\n<hr class=\"styled-hr\" style=\"width:100%;\">\n<div style=\"height: 20px; overflow: hidden; width: 100%;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"paragraph\" style=\"text-align:left;\">I am not doing a good job moving the narrative along. I&#8217;m not even sure why I&#8217;m writing this. If anyone is reading, I apologize. To get back on track:<\/div>\n<div class=\"paragraph\" style=\"text-align:left;\">\n<span><\/span>I\u00a0was still standing in the reception area of the language-institute with Melinda (who had\u00a0served as &#8220;chauffeur&#8221; from the airport) and Mrs. Y. The latter mentioned something about going out to eat with all the coworkers, to welcome me and to say goodbye to the other guy &#8212;\u00a0the outgoing &#8220;foreign teacher&#8221;, whose apartment I would inherit, and whose classes I would inherit. Melinda had now completed her job in delivering me to this place, but she was much younger than the boss, and waited around longer than a Westerner would have. Finally she excused herself, saying she needed to wake up early the next day. She went back down the elevator. I never saw her again.<\/p>\n<p><span><\/span>Mrs. Y was being very positive and energetic that night, and trying her best to be pleasant. She ushered me into her office and offered me some of the milkiest and sweetest coffee I&#8217;d ever tasted. She spent a couple of minutes talking and showing me my schedule. The schedule was full to the brim with classes.<\/p>\n<p><span><\/span>Her veneer of enthusiasm showed small cracks while in her office for those few minutes. I was reminded of that old adage about bears being more afraid of you than you are of them. Maybe it was because she saw in me someone utterly clueless about the ways of Korea, and was having second-thoughts about hiring me. More likely, she was embarrassed that I had the most classes of any teacher, and that I would be working on every Saturday (as we all were). I told myself I&#8217;d be okay with it. In fact, though Saturday (half-day) work in particular sounds bad, and <em>does<\/em> limit time for leisure and trips, I really liked it. Saturday work was definitely the most relaxed and &#8220;fun&#8221; day of all.<\/p>\n<p><span><\/span>Our brief orientation was over. She said we needed to go down and join the others at a nearby restaurant, where they had already begun eating. We put my suitcases in the trunk of her car and got in. . . .<\/div>\n<div>\n<div style=\"height: 20px; overflow: hidden; width: 100%;\"><\/div>\n<hr class=\"styled-hr\" style=\"width:100%;\">\n<div style=\"height: 20px; overflow: hidden; width: 100%;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"paragraph\" style=\"text-align:center;\">\n<font size=\"3\"><strong>[This is the End of Part III]<\/strong><br \/><span><\/span><br \/><span><\/span><strong>[Next: <a title=\"\" href=\"http:\/\/yuletide5142.weebly.com\/1\/post\/2013\/05\/post-49-one-night-in-april-of-2009-pt-4-meeting-new-coworkers.html\">Part IV<\/a>, Part V, Part VI]<\/strong><br \/><span><\/span><\/font><strong><font size=\"3\">[Previous: <\/font><a title=\"\" href=\"http:\/\/yuletide5142.weebly.com\/1\/post\/2013\/05\/post-46-one-night-in-april-of-2009-pt-1-at-the-airport.html\"><font size=\"3\">Part I<\/font><\/a><font size=\"3\"> and <\/font><a title=\"\" href=\"http:\/\/yuletide5142.weebly.com\/1\/post\/2013\/05\/post-47-one-night-in-april-of-2009-pt-2-the-wild-neon-yonder.html\"><font size=\"3\">Part II<\/font><\/a><font size=\"3\">]\u00a0<\/font><\/strong>\n<\/div>\n<div>\n<div style=\"height: 20px; overflow: hidden; width: 100%;\"><\/div>\n<hr class=\"styled-hr\" style=\"width:100%;\">\n<div style=\"height: 20px; overflow: hidden; width: 100%;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>NOTE: These are my memories of the night I arrived in Korea in 2009. The memories are vivid, even as I sit here in the spring of 2013, four years later. This is a follow-up to:Part I: &#8220;A Pig Virus Delays My Arrival&#8220;andPart II: &#8220;Into the Wild Neon Yonder&#8221; [Simple synopsis of Part I: Late [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-55","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/yule-tide.blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/55","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/yule-tide.blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/yule-tide.blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yule-tide.blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yule-tide.blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=55"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/yule-tide.blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/55\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/yule-tide.blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=55"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yule-tide.blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=55"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yule-tide.blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=55"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}